Welcome to my website and blog. This blog started as a vision. I am proud to finally make it reality. Similarly, many who struggle in addiction have a vision. The vision is one they can’t quite realize and make reality for themselves. This blog is an effort to help others actualize the vision they may have for a life free from addiction, free from the chaos that often accompanies addictive process, and help achieve the vision of recovery. A sober life begins living with intention (and an admittance of powerlessness).
"Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality." - Abraham Lincoln
In a previous post I have written about the two D’s in Sex Addiction: Discovery and Disclosure. This post will highlight the two D’s of Recovery.
Recently, I was at my 5:15 a.m. spin class when the instructor shouted out “O.K. you got yourself here – that is the first part….now show us what you are made of!” She talked about “the two D’s”: Discipline and Drive. First you have to show up, and while you are here….you must do the work and apply the energy. These principles apply whether one wants to lose weight, plan for a triathlon, or finish an ironman.
During the recent Super Bowl Sunday “parade of super commercials” Audi had a commercial depicting a young man going to the Prom. He was going to the prom alone. In that determination to go alone he had several family members and friends taunting him with the words “no one goes to the Prom alone”. Even his grade-school aged sister in the chorus of taunts says: “Only losers go to the Prom alone.” His dad offers him the key to the Audi as incentive and courage to go it alone. The next scene flashes and we see him boisterously walking onto the stage to take the prom queen and whisk her off in the A4. The final scene portrays the young man and the prom queen screaming in the thrill of going top speed in the A4. The commercial ends with the slogan “Bravery. It is what defines us.”
Beginning Care Workshop for Spouses in Relationships Impacted by Sexual Addiction/Compulsivity