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Welcome!
Welcome to my website and blog. This blog started as a vision. I am proud to finally make it reality. Similarly, many who struggle in addiction have a vision. The vision is one they can’t quite realize and make reality for themselves. This blog is an effort to help others actualize the vision they may have for a life free from addiction, free from the chaos that often accompanies addictive process, and help achieve the vision of recovery. A sober life begins living with intention (and an admittance of powerlessness).
The Presents of Presence in Sex Addiction Recovery
Recovery wisdom advises: Never allow yourself to get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, (HALT). On this morning’s 6-mile run, with my run partner out of town and running on less sleep than normal, I was hitting 2 out of 4 of the precautionary directives. If I let my mind wander to “I have to do 6 miles today” the run seemed like an impossible task. I wanted to walk. I wanted to slow down. 
My thoughts entered the realm of “stinking thinking” and the dreaded “I can’t do this”. Ughhh. I was tired. I was alone. I didn’t have my music. I was becoming bored. All the tell-tale signs of the wheels falling off the bus were at-risk for coming into play.
Entering Into the Pain of Transformational Change
"If you accept the pain, it cannot hurt you. The pain of making the necessary sacrifices always hurts more than you think it's going to. I know. It sucks.
That being said, doing something seriously creative is one of the most amazing experiences one can have, in this or any other lifetime. If you can pull it off, it's worth it. Even if you don't end up pulling it off, you'll learn many incredible, magical, valuable things. It's NOT doing it when you know you full well you HAD the opportunity- that hurts FAR more than any failure."
- Hugh MacLeod
Sex Addiction Creates Rough Seas in a Marriage – SOS! May Day!
On my visit to San Diego, while attending the SASH conference, I took some time to be a tourist when the conference ended. My husband had a meeting at the same time close by so we made a rendezvous to enjoy some outdoor activities in the area. 
My wish for outdoor activities included cycling and sea lion watching. My husband was up for sea lions, but preferred to add ocean kayaking to the list of fun. With limited time we compromised by deciding on ocean kayaking that would include a trip by a peninsula that sea lions were known to inhabit.
