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Nina Laltrello's blog
Welcome to my website and blog. This blog started as a vision. I am proud to finally make it reality. Similarly, many who struggle in addiction have a vision. The vision is one they can’t quite realize and make reality for themselves. This blog is an effort to help others actualize the vision they may have for a life free from addiction, free from the chaos that often accompanies addictive process, and help achieve the vision of recovery. A sober life begins living with intention (and an admittance of powerlessness).
"Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality."-- Abraham Lincoln
By now the resolutions, that most people had set to enter 2016, have begun to fade. Goals and New Year’s resolutions are great for vision, but lack the mechanics to get one to successful completion.
Sustained successful recovery cannot be attained with vision or willpower alone. Willpower is the unwavering strength to carry out one’s wishes. Willpower is instinctual but needs help to be sustained. This is where mastery of self-control, repeated over time creates sustained successful recovery. If addiction is “habits to the bad”, successful recovery is “creating habits to the good”. “Pushing the dark out” is hard. “Inviting the light in” is so much easier.
"One's first step in wisdom is to question everything - and one's last is to come to terms with everything."
- Georg Christoph Lichtenberg
For the spouse betrayed by Sexual Addiction, reminders can seem everywhere. These reminders are called triggers. Triggers to “offensive stimulus” feel like they might not ever go away. In the recent days of the Ashley Madison Data Breach and Josh Duggar’s sexual secrets revealed, spouses report in my office asking if the reminders of their own life’s betrayals might ever stop.
Recently clients have said in my office:
· “Can I ever go out to dinner again and not be reminded of what is going on in my life?”
· “Do I have to hear people talking about the news non-stop?”
· “Movies and television shows make me so angry. I didn’t realize how commonplace this was until I am agitated every time I see a reminder of what has impacted my life!!”
Every year in our household growing up I would watch “Miracle on 34th Street” with my father. My father passed away almost 8 years ago but I still look forward to catching that movie with my own daughter. One of my favorite scenes is when the little girl, played by Natalie Wood, after trials, tribulations and nay-sayers regarding Kris Kringle, repeated slowly to herself “I believe, I believe….” And she spotted the gift promised to her by Kris Kringle.
Recovery is believing. When you think you can’t, change your thoughts. You can. Find Courage. When you think you can’t….Believe. The gifts of recovery await.
You don’t have to have a monumental program, just be consistent every day.
I believe, do you?